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Learning from Family History

A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.  ~ Marcus Garvey

The holidays have passed, post both quality and extended time with family and friends and typically when we are most aware of the quirks and patterns of these relationships. In the past year, I have observed—whether through the redundancy of the message in studying human and family behavior (through Bowen theory here at New Life) or the history gurus of friends that surround me—the theme of learning and taking away from those before us has become undoubtedly an important life lesson. There’s understanding and self-awareness that comes alongside the uncovering of information from both a personal and historical framework.

There’s power in knowing, in seeking information to help form a deeper understanding of who came before you and the dynamics and motivations of their lives. This is an example set before us bluntly through Scripture, literature, historical figures, etc. Life is short. Why wait around and try to learn many lessons through experience, when there have been so many before us that have made similar mistakes or successes? In Job, one of his friends asked a strategic question.  “…Ask the former generations and find out what their fathers learned, for we were born only yesterday and know nothing, and our days on earth are but a shadow. Will they not instruct you and tell you? Will they not bring forth words from their understanding?" (Job 8:8-10).

Jesus, over and over again, asks us to follow His example, do as He did on Earth, to practice such things and the God of peace will be with [us.]” (Philippians 4:9). Tying into Bowen theory, observing family dynamics, patterns and cycles can bring about insight fostering a change in unhealthy relationship patterns from decades before us. Learning how the dynamics we were born into stem down from generation to generation can free us from the shame or guilt we feel in our sinful nature. We are human. We are not perfect but can learn to adapt.

The rich wisdom in my own history has provided freedom, deeper empathy and greater understanding for me. With this comes a greater connection and clarity to God’s creation and my own purpose. I welcome walking with you and helping you discover more about your own history and insight that you may gain from studying your own history and the history of your family.

Romans 15:4, For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.”

Ellie Fellbaum
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